Letter to Thatha in Heaven

This is the letter that my 7 year old niece wrote on the demise of her beloved grandpa.... it brought tears to my eyes.. i can feel the pain in the kids heart...This is LOVE

Dear Thatha

Hope that now you have peace and relax for you are in heaven.

I really miss you.

Are you better ..now that god is with you..

Appa misses you as well with patti

Love
Nidhi..

Google Maps and the not-so-well defined India

I couldn' believe my eyes when i first had a look, i thought it was some kind of hoax email... but i bet it much more a serious issue....

Google Maps has 3 definitions of india ...well.. its the boundary matter

1. India with Arunachal Pradesh -India Version
2.India without Arunachal Pradesh = China with Arunachal Pradesh -China Version
3. India without Arunachal Pradesh = China without Arunachal Pradesh = Arunachal Pradesh in Dispute - US Version


Google these links for India and check out the boundaries...

It sounds aweful and am already fuming... Google is playing a big time game... What a shame...

True Ariesian with err...a lil deviation !

I got a mail forward recently which says abt each sun sign.. and am an aries...

ARIES - The Daredevil
Energetic. Adventurous and spontaneous. Confident and enthusiastic. Fun. Loves a challenge. EXTREMELY impatient. Sometimes selfish. Short fuse. (Easily angered.) Lively, passionate, and sharp wit. Outgoing. Lose interest quickly - easily bored. Egotistical. Courageous and assertive... Tends to be physical and athletic.


I was wondering how much of an ariesian am i ?!!!!!

Energetic - ofcourse... but i get drained soooner :)
First few mins of my aerobics session would be energy packed... jump high... stretch maxx.... and thennnn in the next few mins... i would be in the low state.... MID or Average or moderate .. never exists in my world... its either Highs or Lows....

Adventurous - i love to be adventurous.. scuba diving , trekking ..wat not i love it all... .. unfortunately my partner being a aqurian is too much of a sweetheart for adventures :) [ i wish he doesn read my post ;) ]

Spontaneous - i blurt and then think..if this can be counted as spontaneous then am one :)

Confident - Ah ... People think i am confident..but i keep fuming inside like will i get it right... am i going to mess it up ...


Enthusiasm - Okay.. if there can be a term for short lived enthusiasm.. i fit in perfectly..
i take a brisk walk ,i start with Sooo much zeal..but it dies before i reach the other end ....

Fun - ahemmm no comments :) i love being funny


Loves a challenge - if it gets beyond me... its a sour grape !!!


EXTREMELY IMPATIENT - if i want something to happen , I WANT IT TO HAPPEN !!!


Sometimes Self-fish - Yeah but many a time self-less :) .. you are rite !! i DONT agree :D


Short Fuse - perfect word that fit me :) if you know someone who gets angered at drop of a hat..its probably me ... but again its damn tooo short lived... goes offff in no time !!!

Lively - I THINK i am most livelist person around :D :D know wat "The sun sign reading says i am egotistical ..so let me try to fit in that quality as well !!!!!!!!"

Courageous and assertive - Okay.. if the sun sign says so.. i better be !!!!!!

Passionate - How can you be passionate about something if you lose interest quickly.. well thats what the sun sign says... its contradicting ... so i take the lose interest quickly stand .!!!! but till i lose i am passionate :) [ doesn hold good for my husband ..... i meant to say i Wont lose interest on him :D .....now i reallly really wish he reads this part ;) ]

Quick Wit - I am quick witted ... :) Because i say so !!!!

Outgoing - yea very much ...

Lose Interest - Ah.. i have already lost interest in finishing the post..... I am gonna wind it for now.. if it not it will stay in my drafts for ever....

Egotistical - i proved am one already didn't i ???

Tends to be physical and athletic - Ahh.. .. its totally unlike me !!! i am not athletic ... i run like a clown...

Here by i declare i am true ariesian with a 11% deviation [ i have not counted atheletic and assertive .. am being Honest :) :) ... i dont see this trait in the sun sign :( ]

Please take it as a tag who ever reads this post.... here is the sun sign reading .....

VIRGO - The Perfectionist
Dominant in relationships. Conservative.. Always wants the last word... Argumentative. Worries. Very smart. Dislikes noise and chaos. Eager. Hardworking. Loyal. Beautiful. Easy to talk to. Hard to please. Ha rsh. Practical and very fussy. Often shy. Pessimistic..

SCORPIO - The Intense One
Very energetic. Intelligent. Can be jealous and/or possessive. Hardworking. Great kisser.. Can become obsessive or secretive. Holds grudges. Attractive. Determined. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Can be self-centered at times. Passionate and Emotional.

LIBRA - The Harmonizer
Nice to everyone they meet. Can't make up their mind. Have own unique appeal. Creative, energetic, and very social. Hates to be alone. Peaceful, generous. Very loving and beautiful. Flirtatious. Give in too easily. Procrastinators. Very gullible.

ARIES - The Daredevil
Energetic. Adventurous and spontaneous. Confident and enthusiastic. Fun. Loves a challenge. EXTREMELY impatient. Sometimes selfish. Short fuse. (Easily angered.) Lively, passionate, and sharp wit. Outgoing. Lose interest quickly - easily bored. Egotistical. Courageous and assertive... Tends to be physical and athletic.

AQUARIUS - The Sweetheart
Optimistic and honest. Sweet personality. Very independent. Inventive and intelligent. Friendly and loyal. Can seem unemotional. Can be a bit rebellious. Very stubborn, but original and unique Attractive on the inside and out. Eccentric personality.

GEMINI - The Chatterbox
Smart and witty. Outgoing, very chatty. Lively, energetic. Adaptable but needs to express themselves. Argumentative and outspoken. Likes change. Versatile. Busy, sometimes nervous and tense. Gossips. May seem superficial or inconsistent, but is only changeable. Beautiful physically and mentally.

LEO - The Boss
Very organized. Need order in their lives - like being in control. Like boundaries... Tend to take over everything....... Bossy. Like to help others. Social and outgoing. Extroverted. Generous, warm-hearted.. Sensitive. Creative energy. Full of themselves. Loving. D oing the right thing is important to Leos. Attractive.

CANCER - The Protector
Moody, emotional. May be shy. Very loving and caring. Pretty/handsome. Excellent partners for life. Protective. Inventive and imaginative. Cautious. Touchy-feely kind of person. Needs love from others. Easily hurt, but sympathetic.

PISCES - The Dreamer
Generous, kind, and thoughtful. Very creative and imaginative.. May become secretive and vague. Sensitive. Don't like details Dreamy and unrealistic. Sympathetic and loving. Kind. Unselfish. Good kisser.. Beautiful.

CAPRICORN - The Go-Getter
Patient and wise. Practical and rigid. Ambitious. Tends to be good-looking. Humorous and funny. Can be a bit shy and reserved. Often pessimists. Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be unfriendly y at times. Hold grudges. Like competition. Get what they want.

TAURUS - The Enduring One
Charming but aggressive. Can come off as boring, but they are not. Hard workers.. Warm-hearted. Strong, has endurance. Solid beings who are stable and secure in their ways. Not looking for shortcuts. Take pride in their beauty. Patient and reliable. Make great friends and give good advice. Loving and kind. Loves hard - passionate. Express themselves emotionally. Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums. Determined. Indulge themselves often.... Very generous.

SAGITTARIUS - The Happy-Go-Lucky
Good-natured optimist. Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome). Indulges self. Boastful. Likes luxuries and gambling... Social and outgoing. Doesn't like responsibilities. Often fantasizes. Impatient. Fun to be around. Having lots of friends. Flirtatious. Doesn't like rules. Sometimes hypocritical. Dislikes being confined - tight spaces or even tight clothes. Doesn't like being doubted. Beautiful inside and out.

My favorite Pic

This is my favorite pic... my husbands frens kids... on the way to kovai kutralam ....

I would love to write a poem about the pic and i know am sooo pathetic in writing one.. :) so i leave it plain !!

Haven't you finished it yet ??!!!

I just started reading the book and hardly flipped some 20 pages after which i couldn't find time for THE BOOK - Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus .
But yes reading through those 20 pages did actually make me understand things !

A question for you readers ... When you are busy cooking your partners favorite dish, your partner comes from work and he is unbelievably hungry and he throws a question like " Haven't you finished cooking yet ?"

How do you answer ?

OK, this is what i replied - What do you think i have been doing.. i didnt even sit for minute after i came from work.. and you ask me such a question..10 more minutes of blah blah blah....He shrugs and leaves the place..

I don't feel like eating and he doesn feel like eating and both of us go to bed without dinner facing opposite directions trying to get some sleep and our tummy screaming for food... an hour passed by..

Then we start kicking each other.. this is how we try to end our fights... and we slowly begin to talk and he asks ,"Why did you freak out when i asked you about the food ?" . I was like "I had been trying hard to finish it before you come.. but then you ask as if i had been idling ".. He was like ," Uh, god.. i just wanted to know how much time it would take for you to finish cooking so that we could go to beach after that "

Oh dear.. i couldn't have messed it more....

Its a question of attitude - I percieved it as a complaint note while he was expecting an answer !!!!

It would have been a lot simpler if i had answered " Another 10 minutes honey " rather than the blah, blah blahs ....

Then i realised, i could apply it for my work life too !!!!

Before my realization,when the client asked me - you havent finished it yet.. i go into the blah blah blahs for not able to complete it...

But now :) , i would need 4 more hours to complete !!!

I am no longer getting frustrated of "Haven't you finished it :) " .. Thanks to sriram :)

Laundro'phobia!!!!!!

Laundry had always been a nightmare ever since I got married.... it seemed a vicious circle.. was wondering if I am the only one to crib about it.....

I load the washing machine till it gasps for breath....and let it run during the night and i would plan to put it for drying next day ... but invariably i end up waking up soooo late.. so skip the drying process to the night... I happily let the washed wet clothes stink in the washing machine....

The moment i come back that evening , the remainder goes on in my mind for drying the clothes, i snooze it away finish my dinner, watch the shows and i head to the washing machine with a scornful,wicked look...

The process is not over ..... I let the clothes hang happily for a couple a days [ ?!!!! - err ... the longer it hangs, the more time i get before folding them back :D ] .. sometimes a week too... our clothes loved to be in an airy place than those dark gloomy wardrobes...

Then comes the day for it to be removed...and definitely not because it has been hanging on for too long.. its because there is another pile for the laundry.... and from now the circle is ON!!!!!!

Not to forget the days I escape from this cycle -when my dear husband takes the charge or wen my mom comes to visit me :D.......even then i hate watching them do laundry...

I got reminded of a picture drawn by a school kid - a washing machine with an attached hanger .... I would have been the first to buy if such thing ever comes to market... but wait a minute...wat do i do to fold and put them back in wardrobes ??? !!!! Err simple... ask my mom to pay a visit :D :D .... Selfish me :)

The unbid farewell !

Ambrish... a very smart, intelligent,chirpy boy.. We were classmates from 1st to 3rd ... I still remember his warm smile. No one in this world could even have a pinch of hatred on him for he was such a sweet boy ... He had always been the teachers pet ... He topped the class all the time and he was brilliant in extra-curricular too....

I sometimes used to feel jealous for I always missed the first rank... Though i liked him a lot, i secretly used to pray at the end of each academic year that he should be put in a different section....

I loved his family... a beautiful and a proud mother, a soft spoken and a sweetest dad,him, a cute younger brother....It was a picture perfect happy family.... one of those fairy tale families.......

The summer holidays got over and we were looking for our classrooms.. Much to my happiness Ambrish was not in the same section..

I reached for his section during the break...I knew the moment I entered his classroom,Ambrish was on leave... I couldn' find him in the first bench .

Two days passed by and yet no hints... I was told by his family friends daughter that he was sick and he is not yet back from Ooty... I wished he gets back all healthy and happy soon.....

My mother met his mother on the market place after few days and she told her not so good things that happened during that summer holidays .... he had a fall from the toy train in Ooty and he was admitted in hospital for couple of days .After a couple of days, he complained about his heavy legs and he fell twice when trying to walk around...

They rushed to hospital again and ran a series of tests and finally left his parents a heart breaking diagnosis.. that he had Sickle Celled Anemia*....

He was bed ridden for so many days.... and he was taken to hospitals in the nearby city for treatments... and he had a nervous problem due to which he had difficulty in walking, slurred speech..

I couldn't believe it was the same Ambrish to whom i waved a bye at the end of our annual exams.. to whom i mocked... dont come for ur results... u will be the topper anyway..... And i feel guilty for saying... for he never came to school after that.......

He had the radiating smile when we went to his house,.He looked taller for a tweleve year old. He handed me a big choclate bar with a even brighter smile. I could see the marks of surgery on his bony legs... neverthless he was smiling through out.... I could see lots of maths books and activity books lying beside him and there on the notebook was written a two digit multiplication problem... something like 12*30 = ? [dont remember the exact numbers].

Each time Ambrish gave us a big smile, i knew where he got it from.... from his mother who was sitting next to him ... holding his hands compassionately.

When asked him, if he comes back to school whose section would he join...it was afroz this time... when asked about what he said during previous visits [ he had said nithya once / sowmya the next time / divya the next time .....] he would give us a sheepish grin :)....each time he told one of us .... so that he hurt none ... what a gem of a soul.....

Our visits to his house grew less frequent as we entered college ... and then his father got transfered to a nearby township, it grew still less frequent .... Fours of college, we would have hardly met him four times...

I lost touch with almost the world when i joined work.....

One morning, my mother called me when i was busy debugging some pathetic code i had written....
there was a shiver in her voice... i almost froze for a minute when she said me "Ambrish has has...".. she left the sentence unfinished .. i sank down and i was sweating profusely.. i couldn cry.. i was shocked... i was speechless.... then I and my friends left office to our hometown ....

There lay ambrish... without the smile, without the radiating looks....there laid Ambrish in coffin... he looked thinner.... his eye socket was deep... he was pale... i wanted to hold his hand for one last time....i wanted to say him he had been the most greatest soul i would ever meet....

I see his mother collapsing... was panicked to see the cold stare on his brothers eye.. he hadn' shed a drop of tear... we wanted him to cry out... but he didn' ... he was staring at ambrish... he kept saying anna..annaa..anna... for god knows how many times... he swayed the flies... he wiped his face still saying anna... anna....his inconsolable father....

It was once a happy family that i loved spending time with... without Ambrish... without him it wouldn even be a family....




Sickle Celled Anemia*
For those who dont have time to know about sickle celled anemia..here are some facts about it.

1.It is genetic
2. The shape of the RBC looks a sickle [ the shape of cresent instead of the disc shape] The sickle shape arises out of the abnormal hemoglobin counts- which was too low in his case.Because of the sickle shape , the movement inside the blood vessels is not easy and tends to form lumps and block the blood vessels . Also the sickle cells dies faster than the normal shaped cells [sickle cells die in 10-20 days for sickle cell while normal cells die in 4 months] and the bone marrow does produce cells fast enough to replace the dying ones.
3.It results in severe pains in the bone joints,severe chest and abdominal pain and it could get worse due to the vulnerability of infections.
4.There has still not been a cure.These are medicines to lessen the pains .
5.May have to undergo lot of blood transfusions.
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